True Liking (vs Superficial Liking)

The genuine, deep pleasure that comes from the whole person and childish truthfulness—distinguished from wilfulness, professional posturing, or pleasing others' expectations.

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Concepts (2)

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Pleasing Yourself
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The core prescription of the chapter: making what truly pleases you at the deepest level, which Alexander argues is the key to creating all living structure and the path to the I.
Wilfulness
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The false pleasing of oneself done out of a desire to be somebody, to be important, or to conform to professional images—very different from true pleasing.

Questions (1)

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What would it mean to make something one truly likes?
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The diagnostic question for distinguishing genuine liking from artificial or conventional preference.

Related by similarity (8)

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Real Likingconcept0.840
A lasting, profound liking that survives extended exposure and differs from superficial, fashionable preferences.
Real liking comes from childish truthfulness, in which one respects one's own feeling and does not pay homage to a theory or idea.claim0.804
Definition of genuine liking as originating in a pre-conceptual, child-like authenticity.
What is truly liked may be different from what is apparently liked; this is a matter of judgment and knowledge, not opinion.claim0.790
The epistemological distinction crucial to the argument.
Our everyday liking (subjective preference) often diverges from deep liking, but deep liking converges to agreement and corresponds to living structure.claim0.777
Distinction between superficial and deep preference.
Deep Likingconcept0.764
Synonym for real liking or liking from the heart; the authentic, convergent preference that tracks living structure.
Somehow, the experience of real liking has to do with self. As we find out which things awaken real liking in ourselves, we find ourselves more in touch than before with our own selves.claim0.753
Linking real liking to self-discovery.
The more accurate we are about what we really like, in the sense of liking from the heart, the more we find out that we agree with other people about what these things are.claim0.744
Assertion of convergence among deep personal preferences.
The wanting/liking dissociation is a dissociation between two kinds of evaluation and two corresponding dimensions of experience, not between evaluation and experience as suchclaim0.734
Accommodation of Berridge and Robinson's dopamine dissociation within the identity framework